Sarah Nyhan

What if we took our ego out of the equation? What if we considered that certain people came into our lives for us? But not necessarily to stay forever.

Could we be more attached to the feelings we experienced with them during the times we needed those feelings? Versus actually needing that specific person in our lives going forward?

It’s really difficult to separate the two. To see that so many positive things could come from the interaction with people who are not currently aligned with who we are and where we are going. And maybe never were.

Maybe we crossed paths for a specific reason and a specific season. Maybe that time has long since passed. Maybe there is actually an expiration date on many relationships on this side of the human experience.

Can we forgive them for not meeting our expectations? Can we allow ourselves to feel disappointed without holding them hostage emotionally? Can we give them our blessing and let them go do whatever it is that they are so insistent on doing without us?

Will we tie the good feelings we experienced with them to only them? As if no one else on this planet of over seven billion people could ever similarly or even more so be aligned with us?

Will we not trust that Love is only ever advocating for us and our healing? Even if the other person decides to tap out?

Will we insist on pounding stakes down and camping out in the story we got attached to and depended on in order to get through some really difficult times? Even though the other has, objectively speaking, long since stopped being a part of that narrative and maybe clearly moved on?

One of the most challenging and yet transformative concepts that I’ve wrestled, and continue to wrestle with, is that I think Love will even speak to us in the form of the so-called devil’s advocate if that’s what it takes to get us unstuck. To get us to an even better place. When we are so willing to settle for just more than we had before.

It’s completely understandable. No one would blame you. Blame me. Knowing all we have been through.

But what if the best is yet to come? And because we can’t see it yet, pain is allowed to propel us forward. Not to destroy us. But to lead us into the freedom we never even knew or dared to hope for. Intellectually at least.

Our hearts knew better all along. They protected us in ways that appeared at the time to be counter productive. Looking back, even our bodies would physically manifest these dissonances when the disappointments were entirely too sensitive to face head on and sit through at the time.

As hard as it is to dream again, and even bigger, maybe we were never meant to settle here. Will we let go? Will we allow mystery to lead us to maybe even better adventures?

Or will we insist on Life limiting our experiences only to what we can orchestrate and control?

Will I take my ego out of the equation? Will I see you for who you really are right now? Even though I can still believe in all you could be?

I don’t know which path is “right”. All I know is how they have so far been working, or not working, for me.

Is it possible to mess up? To pick the wrong way and be stuck with the consequences?

Or does everything always work out in the end how it was always meant to be?

I’m going to take a chance on myself. Even with no guarantees, I’m going to put my money on me.

What if you’re not asking for too much? What if you’ve never asked for enough?