Sarah Nyhan

Where I am especially frustrated is wondering how much of this life is destiny and how much of it is up to me.

There are times where I feel like I was connected to Spirit and God was intervening in my life to align certain things up just so. Undeniably.

But then I look at some other people and I see them pass by what looks like so many opportunities.

For instance I know someone who just sits at home and stares at screens all day. The TV, her tablet, her phone, etc. Then she wants to complain about not having a relationship with several people.

Actually she was complaining that they didn’t know her. And I was thinking, “Of course not. The only time you ever reach out to them seems to be when you want them to do something for you. When is the last time you did something for them? When is the last time you invited them over? Or went to visit them?” Excuse after excuse after excuse. Or is that destiny?

One time I was being mentored at my college. A coworker of mine was also attending the same college. She ended up in an elevator with my mentor. He noticed the company logo on her shirt and asked her if she knew me. She said she did. He offered to mentor her also. She never took him up on the offer. I reaped a lot of benefits from that mentoring relationship. And she had that same opportunity but turned it down. Is that destiny?

But what about the times when God clearly intervenes? What is that about? How do I quantify and classify those experiences?