Unfortunately those that do care are going to probably be the ones who question themselves. When those that need to listen will probably skip over what might benefit them.

I was talking to someone recently about selfishness. And I have personally determined that I get to define selfishness for myself. Not anyone else. That’s the only way I can see it working.

So then this other person and I were throwing around examples. And the one that fit my definition the best for me is when you see these people who have children that are obviously lacking necessities. Even sometimes nutritious food to eat. And their parents are out there partying, etc. Blowing all the money while literally leaving the kids starving. Or worse, selling them out to others for your comfort.

That’s extreme. But I think all kinds of damage can be done along a spectrum of selfishness.

This is really a heart thing. You know. You feel it. You’ve tried to give them the benefit of the doubt a million more times than they probably deserved. And instead of being grateful, they smack you back even harder next time. Spit and shit in your face. Even if “politely”. Even if they don’t cause a scene.

Some might say, “Well, I party so I don’t lose it with my kid.” Hey, that’s between you and God. Not me. But I get to decide how much of you and that I want in my life. How much energy I have for it.

Same thing for each one of us.

I can’t judge. But I can decide what I do and don’t like. By default, when I know better, it falls on me as to what I allow in my life.

Sure, keep crying loud enough for everyone to hear about who is doing whatever wrong. But at the end of the day, nothing is going to change as long as people enable them. And as long as people enable the enablers.

Ultimately it’s up to you. It’s your life.

Tick tock.