I am reading A More Christlike Word by Brad Jersak as part of a study group I am attending. I am going to be sharing some of my reflections as I read the book. Here is my tenth reflection:

But as I go along, it gets harder and harder to see another as other. If I’m not seeing you as me, then I’m probably missing the point. I’m probably off in my mind. Trying to self-protect. Not that boundaries aren’t very welcome and necessary. But my heart. Have I even asked Jesus how Trinity sees you?

I was afraid to do this before. Because the preachers had taught me about a god that believed in domestic violence and the abuse of women. But books like Brad’s are so helpful is me unlearning that toxic teaching. More than toxic – untrue and violently unhelpful.

Once I learned about a better God. Through experience first. And then theology as it was revealed to me through God and others. Then I could trust Trinity enough to ask how God sees me, others, and the situations we found ourselves. Only then.

Again, only the goodness of God leads to change. And do NOT read that as we are called to any particular interaction with those who have hurt us.