I have a hard time letting go of people because I don’t want to throw them out like trash. Because I’ve experienced that rejection myself and it hurts and is mean. But there is a difference between throwing people out like trash and them throwing themselves out because they want to act up.
Boundaries are different from rejection. Boundaries say I respect you and this relationship so much that I don’t want us to hurt each other. Boundaries say I would love for this to work out and it’s your choice if you want to be healthy with me or not.