“Forgiving is tough. Excusing is easy. What a mistake it is to confuse forgiveness with being mushy, soft, gutless, and oh so understanding. When you and I excuse the behavior, what we’re really doing is trying to protect ourselves from admitting the pain that we really bear. And unfortunately I think we’ve been hurt in ways we’ve never visited cause we are scared to see what it would look like… We medicate when we don’t want to face stuff… Forgiveness is not turning the other cheek and acting as if nothing happened.”