6/7/2015, 8:56 AM I wrote:
There was a day where I was riding with you in your car and you were going to drop me off down the street from [church]. You pulled into the [church] parking lot to wait a few minutes and I asked you not to park in front of the church.
I just wanted to clarify that it was not at all that I was embarrassed to be seen with you. Not at all. So far I have felt safe to share more with you than most but generally I am a very private person and don’t want people talking about me and asking me questions when it’s none of their business who I hang out with.
Church folk are especially nosy when people of the opposite sex are seen together. I had that problem with D. People kept running their mouth about it being more than me just babysitting his daughter. He didn’t know they were talking and when I brought it to his attention, I think it freaked him out and he only had me babysit A one more time. Which made me really sad.
I have a Facebook but I don’t keep people updated on every place I go and every person I see. I testify to what I think God shows me. I hope some seeds are planted. I’ve seen evidence of this happening. That’s why I feel led to do it even though I’d rather shut the thing down.
Anyway, just wanted to clarify that since I kept thinking about it: not at all embarrassed to be seen with you.
I don’t remember the occasion, but apologize for going against your wishes. If I’m about to do something you are not comfortable with or you just don’t want, tell me – even repeat it rather firmly.
It’s no big deal, considering where I am with [church], I was probably trying to be considerate thinking it would save you time. The truth is that I don’t even remember it happening.
The reason I’m kinda rough with people is that they meddle. Tell them to shut up, mind their own business or quit being busy bodies (Biblical speak). Don’t be shy putting people in their place, especially if it’s me. If I do something wrong, call me out. A friend will understand apologize and not repeat the offense (knowingly). By the way, that is healthy and normal behavior.
I’m sorry that I put you in a compromising position.
You didn’t go against my wishes at all. You don’t have anything to apologize for. Nothing at all. You didn’t offend me at all. I just wanted to make sure I didn’t offend you.
I really respect you being open to two-way communication and feedback. It’s refreshing.
I have to work on being more direct with people. Not at all my strong skill. Need more courage and practice in that area. But I know you’re correct about how healthy people should respond.
A work in progress.